I'm Sorry.

I'm sorry, there is no proper post today. This passed weekend was Canadian Thanksgiving and my mom drove down for a couple days, so needless to say, I've been busy. Too busy to get something finished and posted. It happens sometimes, but I should be back next week.

Dating Terms. A blog response.

Recently I read a blog post from another blogger that one of my Facebook friends had shared, and it was about dating terms and how they’d changed since the writer had gotten married, he called it a “hazy, undefined dating-but-not-dating scene”. I’m not sure how long he’d been married but he made it seem like it had been at least a little while. He assumed these terms are used due to fear of commitment, and with continuing and increasing reliance social media and technology, of course dating terms have changed. So I am going to venture a try at clarifying some of the terms he mentioned.

The two new terms he used were “hungout/ hanging out” and “talking/texting”, but he also went into the older term of “courting”. So I will explain what he couldn’t

Let’s start with “talking/texting”, now I know these things are not unique to this situation and therein lies the source of confusion. You talk and text with people that you’re not romantically linked to, or wish to be. You also can do this before you find yourself romantically linked to them.

 So how do you differentiate texting with a friend and texting with romantic interest?

Well it’s simple, two words, “Romantic Intent”, now what this means is that your intentions are to potentially lead that conversation either verbal or electronic in a romantic direction. Now this isn’t to be confused with flirting, because even though flirting is a part of this not all of flirting has the Romantic Intent that this form of “talking/texting” does. Some people are naturally flirty, some people oblivious to their own flirting, and Romantic Intent is a conscious thing, that’s because romance it’s self is a conscious thing elsewise it is a subconscious, animal, basic instinct.

Now on to “hung/hanging out” and once again these are words that do not necessarily have a romantic connotation to quote the original blogger whom I am responding to “Hanging out is how we describe what we do with our buddies”, and even in my further explanation it is not necessarily “romantic” but it is also not in the common definition of the words. This is because “hung/hanging out” could potentially mean one of two things; One being pre-dating(romantic) and two being a physical thing (could be romantic, but not always). I will talk about them in that order. Pre-dating is as it seems to, literally before dating, and “talking/texting” is a big part of this. Conversational chemistry is only one part of what is necessary for the romantic relationship known as dating. Now this might need a little more clarification; once again there is “Romantic Intent” but there is a greater proximity aspect to this but not a physicality to it. I know that this still sounds like dating except with no physical aspect but this comprises of non-dating activities. So I’m talking about things like quick coffees, grocery shopping, exercising, short walks, even a movie under the right circumstances but there’s no holding hands, kissing, or cuddling(things that buddies do), but maybe a hug once and again depending on circumstance. Now these are not requirements, because at this point what is between the two people involved are still in an essentially undefined state. Then there’s the other definition where “hanging out” is a euphemism for having sex, and this one doesn’t necessarily have to have any trace of romantic intent, this could include friends with benefits, “fun” buddies, random hookups, pretty much any opportunity where sex is being had could be described as hanging out. I am pretty sure that was the assumption that was made in his blog post. And he made it seem like that was the only option where it could very well be an option but not the only one. This related to him complaining about hooking up, he didn’t bash it directly but he did call it “teenage” and used the phrase “vague, timid, code words of high school freshmen”, also describing it as “embarrassing. Almost as if you weren’t in any sort of a committed relationship you’re doing it wrong. And with that I believe that there’s an implied aspect of quote unquote slut shaming there.

There were other things in this post that I had issues with beyond his lack of knowledge on evolving language that I had issues with. For one he appeared to put the onus of blame on only men for this. Especially since it is not always men who are unclear with their intentions or desire for casuality in relationship. And in relationship to that he compared a casuality or lack of definition in relationships to an inherit immaturity in men, and it being a result of fear.

Post Script: I am realizing how much I think about love and relationships, or at least how much it appears that I do. When in reality most of these posts are just me figuring or at least trying to figure things out. This post should have been up sooner, considering when I had read the original post, it was all in my head and I had just needed the time to get it all out.

A late review

Ok it being later in the year than I had hoped and for that I feel as though I must apologize, but I will not apologize, this is because my absence is due to a desire to spend time with family because family is important. So, I am not sorry that this is late.

This is the blog that I intended for Pre New Years because this is my look back. Where I bring up amendments, additions and extra comments I have in association to the things I have written here over the 2012 year. Let’s dive right in.

So I started my 2012 blogging with talking about entering a photo into a contest followed the next day with how it did and me whining about it doing poorly. But that did not deter me, because they did an autumn showcase and I did enter again I still did not win, but this time I did not feel so bad about not winning. Here is the photo I entered. In my opinion a much better photo which I also framed and matted better than the first.

I also discussed starting the blog again, though I still don’t share it on Facebook, and I have stopped posting it to Twitter to prevent judgment from people I know IRL.

I then proceeded to talk about Twitter and communication. And this has not really changed a bit. I got blocked by a Twitter user that I followed because I was unable to properly convey my point in 140 characters, and me being, well, me. I proceeded to send several tweets consecutively in an attempt to get my point across. So I essentially spammed the Twitter user, got blocked and this was still even before I could entirely get my point across. I regret the spamming and getting blocked, but I don’t regret trying to stand up for something I believe in.

Then came two blogs which I have nothing to add to at this time.

Ahh, Boxes. Chronologically the first blog of 2012 I found myself proud of and what I actually referred back to in posts written after this one. Now looking back I can’t see if I mentioned this anywhere but I do believe that it is possible to both inside and outside of a box, not only that you can be in multiple boxes, or that you are in more than one box.

Looking back at the next post I made I realize that “Assumptions” and “Boxes” could have been merged into one post because they have some complementary ideas in them.

I then proceeded to talk about Christmas for five non-consecutive posts; I’ve got to say Christmas was great, and I’m not going to do any sort of haul post because I took a photo and put it on instagram http://instagram.com/p/T06a7PhQBe/

I also talked about using public restrooms which I still wholly stand behind.

I wrote a response to a YouTube video about me being scared about sharing the blog, I think that with the being a New Year I will start sharing this on Twitter again. Still a bit frightened about what some people on Facebook will think though.

For my birthday I shared 23 bits of unsolicited advice which I really enjoyed doing and next birthday I may very well share 24 bits.

Post Script: Double blog today. Also I need to get back into a blogging schedule. So sorry if this gets a little scattered.

I'm scared: My response to Charlie McDonnell

This is going to be about a YouTube video, and the series of video responses that followed. Or at least my elaboration on the topic.

And this is that video. This is a playlist I made including the above video and several of the responses I watched.

Okay, so yes, I am scared too. I don't make videos, but I do write these blogs. And I do sometimes include things of a personal nature. Thinks people can easily judge me on, and could make them look at me differently. Now, I am not worried about people on the internet reading this, because I am more comfortable with internet people. But what really scares me is people I know in the outernet seeing this blog, and my opinions and stuff change how they see me. And thus change the amount of time they choose to spend with me.

And this is also why I only have been sharing the link on Tumblr and not Twitter anymore, also why I haven't shared this on Facebook. I do like the idea of more people reading this thing I am creating, but I have an desire to be liked and I am worried that some of these things might make people change their opinions on me it is kinda frustrating. But when I post things I get around a half dozen pageviews, and I have been getting one daily pageview. You know what, I am perfectly Happy with that. Actually exceedingly happy at that.

Post Script: As I am typing this in I am also writing another Christmas entry, so expect that soon.

Assumptions.

In an ever growing effort to make pickup lines one of my areas of expertise I bought a book entitled "Pickups and Come-ons for All Occasions", it is very simply an anthology of collected lines divided into categories based on the nature of the line. What really caught my attention was the last category, "Famous Flirtations" which contains lines from films, television, music, and literature. But what really caught my interest in this was a quote by François Rabelais, now I only know Rabelais due to his last words "I go to seek a Great Perhaps" and their significance in John Green's novel "Looking for Alaska". Now this was a very profound statement and as a result I just assumed everything he did would of that nature. This is the quote.

"I wrong you not if I my thoughts reveal, 

Saying how the beauty that your clothes conceal 

Is like a spark that sets afire my heart. 

I only ask that you then, for your part, 

Will be a saddle and let me ride, 

Just for this once."   

Once again proves that when you assume it makes an ass out of you and me (ass-u-me). 

Let's talk about assumptions, I like to assume things, it allows me to, like, prepare for hypothetical. Or I make assumptions about people, and now this can get me into trouble. From here I will onto two points, 1. Why I make assumptions 2. Past Assumptions I've made. (Ones that have gotten me into trouble, or close to it.) So I make assumptions in an attempt to either predict future behavior or to fill in the blanks while I'm getting to know people. Okay, now on to saying things that could get me harassed, judged, shunned, or many other things. *braces self* So, I assume that until I meet them or made aware of it all males have a penis, and equally all women have a vagina. I assume that people are straight until they inform me differently. I used to assume that redheads had a superiority complex. But I also used to assume many other things but as stated above assuming makes an ass out of you and me (ass-u-me).

But in writing this and thinking about it while doing so I am reminded that assumptions are not generally good thing, actually a lot of assumptions can be bad. And so I make this request to you try and stop making assumptions about people, I know I will.

Post Script: Happy Halloween. I am being the "personification of a thought or idea". To be more specific I am being "When life gives you lemons", so what are you being for All Hollow's Eve. More importantly what are you being for All Horcrux's Eve?

Well hello again old friend.

So I have decided to start blogging again, and I mean like trying to make a full conscious effort to do this at least once a week. Because what I want to do is like focus my online identity. Now this means more than me blogging, what I will be doing is linking up various accounts and sharing more of my created content on various other sites. So I will be Sharing these blogs on Google+, Twitter, Tumblr, and if I get comfortable enough even Facebook. I will also be rewriting all my descriptions and making all my profile pictures the same so as to unite my accounts. As well I will be trying to get it schedule-ished so as to reach optimum readership, so not posting at after 11pm will be a thing.

Post Script: This was written right after my previous post, but I won't be double day posting. Plus if I have any other things to say about this I can add it in before posting.